Are Italian Men Really Sexy? Read this report.

Part 1

Are Italian men sexy? Well, I should know, after all I’ve lived here since 2005, AND I have a lot of Italian girlfriends so I think I am well qualified to give you the low down.

I was going to wait a little longer before committing to writing about Italian men since I have such a lot to say, I thought it would be, and it will be, very time consuming. I did feel that I ought to at least start for you may curious people out there and I was almost thrown into writing it when I was feeling angry at my current, if very part-time partner who suggested getting together on New Year’s Eve only to spoil things by saying to me “of course at mid-night, I will have to go outside and phone my other lady friends to wish them a Happy New Year” on my evening? I don’t think so, so I turned him down. Come on you Italian guys, have a little respect please, we ladies are human and we do have feelings.

Back to the subject at hand. Just imagine those sexy, tanned, sultry looking Italian men you see in the ads lounging across a big soft bed and looking, well, sexy. The harsh truth is that they sleep in jersey boxer shorts with either old t-shirts or sweatshirts on the top. Their aim is to keep warm. Heaven help them if they have a shoulder sticking out from under the duvet and it catches cold. You’ll never hear the end of it.

My ex used to get dressed the next morning, still wearing the said boxer shorts but he did, at least change the shirt. He even wore a pair of ladies pj’s (his mother bought them and didn’t understand the English, very girly, motto on them) just to keep warm. Sexy Italian man? I don’t think so.

Yes, they can certainly charm you. Who doesn’t melt at the heavily accented “I’m from Italy” initial chat up line and that oh so charming kiss on the hand but whoa there ladies, he has only one objective, to charm himself into your bedroom, where, according to him, you belong, and he knows it works!

Society here in Italy is very sexist with women being shown in the media as decorative items with no brains required thanks. It is very reminiscent of 1970’s Britain and the Benny Hill show. Ladies flutter and flaunt and only say silly unimportant things. The men are important and they are allowed, by society, to treat women as baubles for their pleasure. I have seen couples discussing how beautiful, or otherwise a woman, young or otherwise, is. The lady half of the couple having to give her, usually generous opinion, without jealousy, in agreement with her other half. Of course, the men themselves are all “handsome” in their own eyes, and very much available to any opportunity that may come their way.

My girlfriends, all had fathers who were serial womanisers, their wives turning a blind eye. They went on to marry men who were serial womanisers too, only they didn’t turn a blind eye and separated. They do not  have a single good word to say about Italian males, many preferring to pin their hopes on foreign men who are seen as more trustworthy and reliable.

Are Italian men dangerously reckless and sexy?

No. Everything is bad for you and you shouldn’t do it.

Will they take you on an adventure, to dinner, to anywhere?

No – they will often dine with their male friends and adventures are expensive. All the Italian males I have dated have been a little short in the arm when it comes to reaching into their pockets for their wallet to treat their date like a special person.

Are Italian men fun?

Yes – if you don’t pressure them into committing to you (that takes years) and you try to take each encounter as it comes and don’t, what ever you do, believe what he is telling you about being the most beautiful, fabulous, incredible creature he has ever met. He’s probably just been saying the exact same thing to someone else just half an hour before you met.

End of part 1

White Eating

One thing I have learned in all my years living here in Italy is that the Italians have a cure for everything. Food here is so important. Discussions can be heard about where you  can eat well (si mangia bene) or not and if you don’t then that eating place is to be avoided at all costs.

You won’t be surprised to learn that at the slightest feeling of not being quite right, maybe a slight bloating, an unsettled stomach or just feeling out of sorts, then the Italians have a foodie cure. They resort to eating in white.

No, that’s not dressing up in your best white clothes for every meal. Eating in white means eating bland white coloured food. Bread or plain pasta with a touch of oil. Parmesan cheese, also white, is considered excellent for health so you can eat this with your pasta or alone for best benefits.

Italian bread recipes

 

Things to be avoided:

Tea – it makes you agitated.

Peppers in the evening – they can’t be digested.

Too much of anything, the Italians are extremely cautious about eating and do everything in moderation.

Things to be encouraged:

Everything in moderation.

Pasta.

Parmesan.

Lemon.

Olive oil.

Bread and almost anything cooked in a wood oven!

 

 

Joy and Peace and Frugal Thinking

I woke up this morning full of joy and peace.

I started thinking, you know the way you do when you have time on your own.

Anyway I’m one for saving money. I love a bargain and it excites me to think that I’m saving cash which I can then use on things I like to do.

At the moment, I am clearing my clutter and rather than just throw away, I’ve been looking to sell any belongings that are good enough. It can be tough though especially if you’re attached to them. You have to see them as things. They don’t own you.

I have memories in my head, I don’t need a thing to prove I did something or to make the memory any better or worse.

My son is great at this. He has his PS games. When he’s played them, he sells them. Why hang on?

I have clothes in my wardrobe that I was going to makeover but even then I don’t I’d wear some of them so those are the ones to put onto Ebay. If you don’t like Ebay then there are plenty of other alternatives such as, Amazon, Etsy, Rakuten, Newegg, Craigslist, Bonanza, eBid or you can even set up your own online store.

First economising tip of this blog, don’t develop sentimental attachment to things. Things come and go but they could help you get to where you want and put some money in the bank on the way!